Hey SH, thanks for checking in. I am doing pretty good given the circumstances. I answered the W with Wonka's suggestion, except I left out the good evening, which left the door open for her...aaaand she walked right through and provided rationale for why she made the decision, it was the best for us at the time, she wanted us both to be happy...blah, blah, blah... I didn't respond to the last text. Next time I will make sure and finish it strong, no equivocation so that she doesn't get the chance to regurgitate the same old story, justifying leaving the M.
As for me, I am seeing increased value in looking out for myself. I made a lot of stupid decisions this past year, hoping that it would bring my W out of the fog. I took a loan from my 401k and gave it all to her, I paid for her 1st month's rent and half of her deposit and spent hundreds of dollars in helping her pay her bills all the while my bills went unpaid. As has been stated before my fog as a LBH was thicker than hers as a WW. I will now move forward, look out for me, work out, get my business started and if she wants to get on the M train she can (given she shows that she wants it) and if not then the train will keep speeding along, not slowing down for nobody. It took me a long time to get to this state of mind, but boy am I glad I'm here. I just need to plan for those down days and make sure I don't slip back into nice guy mode.
