Your h has been hinting quite strongly about staying at your place. He's actually afraid to come right out and ask because he fears that you will reject the idea. So, why not just say "h, if you would feel more comfortable staying at my place, you are more than welcome to do so". Put the burden on him to decide whether to come over or not. Sometimes, we have to open the door a bit more than just "ajar" in order for them to step over the threshold. Dancing around the subject by both parties will only frustrate both of you and this issue won't get resolved any time soon unless someone takes the first step, so make the suggestion and then table it.
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.
