Cherry- operation sass!

[Sotto]

So I guess my plan now needs to be life without him.

(Absolutely....at least for now)

And make him feel the loss from me.

(Remember you're not trying to 'make him feel' anything - only to do the best thing for you and your family in view of his behaviour.

I'm not too sure how I can do this while still following db principles and not be cold or angry.

(I think that's your fear again - try to stop worrying about how you may come across to him)

The pain is just so raw, and I'm struggling with bad sickness to even look after myself, let alone my toddler too.

(I can understand this and it must be so tough for you. So - if you aren't worrying about him, what is the right thing for you to do right now to best care for yourself?)

I think this jerk off has the illusion he can do as he pleases but still have this family environment he can fall back on. Like how he told me he will move out and come over for meals- that is not happening.

(Remember that you will only be treated in the in the way that you allow. So, if you ML to him - yes he will cake eat, text his friend all day and ML to you at night. However, if that doesn't work for you, you can let him know....if you can lose the fear of losing him. If you think about it Cherry, he's texting his friend in front of you, whilst you're laid low with morning sickness carrying his child. then he's telling his Mum he doesn't want to be in the M any more, then telling you he wants to ML, but doesn't want to confuse you....really, losing this behaviour in your life is going to be a great relief I think.)

JMHO of course and I hope this helps a little xx