Being there to help v going dark:balance

[Surfer]

AndrewP sounds like there's some hope (however I see no hope in me using the 'quote' function properly - ha ha) - got to watch for that cake eating and stamp it out as you say (even if just stamping out any hope...). I think as Sandi says, you are really waiting for them to experience some loss/grief otherwise they will come back with be same problem. I see this loss as regret for the hurt and seeing the grass is not greener. If they don't see the grass is not greener and fully regret their actions and be willing to do anything to make it better what's the point in reconciling. You will only reconcile with the same possessed person. I'm not interested in this I don't want the alien. I want my wife. If she can't change she is not coming back. But I know for her to change will take a change of heart. I doubt she can do that though as she is so stubborn and always right even though she had the EA and left with D8 and S6. I am just working on making me and the kids more than happy and have just about kicked her into touch emotionally. She will have to win me back now. No longer in pursuit. Now distant. Problem is there is little chasing from her as yet. Only went dark 2-3 weeks ago though. She might not chase of course and on that basis I am free....;)