Hey SR I haven't caught your whole thread yet but I'm seeing this last post. I know how brutal the Facebook thing is. You need to stop it cold turkey though. Sottos advice is spot on.

It is an addiction. It's easy to get sucked in. I discovered my WWs EA bc I had access to her account and found a months worth of extremely explicit messages bt the two of them before my W asked for our S.

There was about a 1.5 week lag between when I found those messages and when I confronted her. But every hour of every day during that 1.5 wks I found myself pulled to log in and see what was going on, even though it would be adding to my pain. I did log in one more time during that period and all it did was add to my pain. After that I decided to stop cold turkey. Wasn't easy, and my mind raced in all sorts of directions about what they were planning/saying to each other, but oh my god was it for the best.

I could see the dark hole I was going to end up in, similar to what you're probably seeing now, and I had to let go of needing to know all of it.

Stop checking his Facebook stuff. Unfriended him if needed. It's not worth it. There's nothing but pain to be found there. You need to balance yourself and the speculation that comes from seeing stuff like that will only crush you.

Stay strong and avoid the pain that you have control over. You need to have energy in reserve to buffer yourself for the pain from the stuff you can't control. You'll be good, but get off the Facebook and get some sleep. Tomorrow is a new day!


Me39
M11 : T13
D9
BD 5/31/16
In House S until 6/21/17
Divorced 10/5/18