RD Movin on 14

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Hi lovely RD. I can understand what you say about wasted years....but I'm not sure I entirely agree and I'm trying to work on this area. At this point, it's hard for me not to feel that marrying XH was a mistake. After all, we had a shortish M which failed. However, we had some great times and I'm trying to take a balanced view looking back. Our M was largely happy for me. I didn't like the ending, but the rest does stand for what it was in terms of my life journey so far.

It can be easy to look at others and to think 'I married the wrong person. But who knows how any R would have unfolded had you taken a different path. I'm sure if we met someone else, they would bring their own set of talents and irritations to the table as would we. We are all essentially flawed (and perfectly imperfect) beings after all.

So, I'm working on trying to remember the joy and looking back on the whole experience in a balanced way - trying not to let the trauma of the ending erase the beginning and the middle. It's a work in progress, but I'm trying to do this for me and I don't want to feel that I 'wasted' years on a 'mistake.' Actually, I feel I made the best decisions I could make given where I was at the time. I'm in a different place now and would probably make different decisions, but that's fine and I have grown since that time too.

Anyway....hope there may be something useful for you my lovely online pal xx