Whats funny in a sad way is that she I am a narcasistic. Anything she can grab onto! And while I would like to admit I am "something" so I can fix it easily :-), a narcassist is the last thing anyone probably would call me...who knows me
rich4j,
I think the WS does seem to have need to vilify the LBS. I assume that makes it easier for the WS to justify their actions and behavior. I'd bet Cadet could provide much better insight regarding vilification of the LBS.
My wife told me that I was a psychopath and a narcissist. So I guess that makes me a narcissistic psychopath or a psychopathic narcissist. Either way, I am a very bad man.
We went to MC and I told the therapist what my wife said and she said, "Certainly not!" Did that matter? Nope! She insisted that, at minimum, I was a narcissist. I asked my wife if a narcissist would be a good dad (my wife has always said that I'm an awesome dad). She said I was only being a good dad so that "everyone could see" what a good dad I am. Huh? Really?
Anytime we'd buy a new vehicle, I'd always let her have the new vehicle. She currently drives a big SUV with all the bells and whistles. I asked her, "If I were a narcissist would I be driving a 2009 Altima?" That seemed to stymie her for a bit.
My doctor (general practitioner) says that she's projecting. That may be the case, I don't know. I don't give any credence to anything my SBTXW says so it doesn't really matter and I think other people see the truth as well; I don't try to mop up behind her swath of lies. I don't have to say anything, she just digs a deeper hole for herself. C'est la vie STBXW.
If it helps, rich4j, my sons saw through the BS very quickly. My youngest son is particularly livid about it. On the Fourth of July he said to me "everything she says is a lie." I've never said anything like that about her; it was his own conclusion.
