MLC vs Midlife Reboot

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So, a quick update. H came over tonight to bring me the refund check. I had also wondered if he was bringing a "spousal maintenance check" as it was due by today (I'm ok without it, but its been a week early the past few months...hand delivered or directly deposited). But I didn't want to ask.

I told him I'd be here at 7ish and he said he'd be here at 7ish. I made sure I looked amazing, but casual. I had been fighting the urge to order barbecue from across the street- their big smoker was cranking out some amazing smells! I ended up making myself some dinner and cracked open a beer. So, an hour later he came over. There was no R talk- I greeted him like an old friend. He gave me the check, I gave him a box of things that will be his from now on (files and such) a well as some of his things from home.

We talked about my hair: I had to cut it to above my shoulders due to breakage and then I finally caved in and dyed it (it just looks like my old hair). He said it looked nice. No major compliment, but he did notice it was shorter. We talked about finance stuff...he wanted to know where I ended up putting the proceeds from the house so I told him where i put it, what investments I made, etc. He made no comments, just accepted it. We talked about our insurances and that we still have all of our cars together (he wondered if we could just keep them together even after divorce, after I said it was cheaper to have them together right now). He was tired, but there was no mention of talking about arrangements or mediation. Just very casual. I kept it light and even had him sit (he was standing but not leaving) and try some kombucha I got from a "meadery" at the farmer's market last night. He talked to the dog a bit.

So, something I noted. He texted me to tell me he wanted to give me the refund check. But he brought up that he had mailed the spousal support check and was surprised I didn't get it yet. Why not mail the refund check as well?