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I used to run up and down the stairs and come in the house with "bluster".


What do you mean run up and down the stairs? Like compulsive behavior, or when you were upset about something?

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So yes, she could have legit reasons to be scared


Well, I don't see it. I know that doesn't change her opinion. I just think she's been advised, by someone, to say she's afraid.

It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!