Well, I'm certainly glad your blood pressure lowered coz I certainly felt it boiling in your post. And with good cause!

Not sure where she is coming from but if I had to guess, she is probably in a mode that she is now driven by the papers and moving forward. For some reason, I have come to the conclusion that for some of the WAS, this is like graduating from school and putting it all behind them and forging ahead in the world. Follow me, my STBXH hasn't really pushed me about the papers. He brings them up occasionally and then we review and then we sit and so forth. It's another cycle. He mentioned that once the papers are done, we have a better chance at being friends. Why? My guess is that it's a page in the history book. That chapter is closed and if they want to start a new one (w/you) they can try to or they can start in a whole other direction.

An older friend of mine that was separated from his W for a few years and then got back w/her says they still go to counseling after 10 yrs. Just recently his W told him she wants to buy new wedding rings. He asked why and she told him so they could symbolize the start of their NEW relationship. Kind of makes sense here. Maybe that's what some of the WAS think. (just surmising??)

Anyway, I think your W is curious about where you are, why you haven't called her since your date etc... It's almost like the stories here where she is seeing where your heart and head are concerning her. She is starting to open up to you and you are not receiving it how she wants you to. You're not PURSUING her! Now, I'm not saying you should but it's the reversal thing. She's probably still in shock about some things but part of her wants to end it so she can try and start fresh w/you.

Hope this makes sense, Seattle. I know where you're coming from but I think that they are still in this alien world and slowly starting to analyze what we've been saying and doing for some time now. It's coming to closure and realizing the reality of it.

I'd stay clear of discussions and keep it to email. If she wants more, she can do it and seek you out. YOU GO MR! Take care Tootles......................

Karen