Hi Ciluzen, just been catching up on your thread. I can understand you reading into it when your H keeps contacting you and suggesting things you would like. I would be reading into it too. It's so hard not to after so many years together, coupled with the fact that this separations is not of your doing or your wishes!
When H says that he thinks the best thing for you is to not be married to him I wouldn't be able to stop myself saying "I disagree, I love being married to you." or something similar.
Has he arranged a time with you to discuss the details that were supposed to be discusses at the mediation meeting? It seems like more stalling to me - and why would he be stalling if it is what he wants? Like you, I can't help but analyse it all.