8-26 I send her an email about an address she has for one of my friends that just had a baby. Errands type email stuff.
8-27 Her birthday. I sent her a card addressed to her maiden name. I wrote "I hope you have a wonderful 33rd year, I hope all your wishes come true, not just with work because there are so many more important things in life. I hope you find peace, love, and happiness. Farewell - Seattle.
By this time I'm on the east coast for a little weekend getaway. Had an AMAZING TIME by the way.
When I returned Sunday 8-29, I saw this email she sent on her birthday Friday 8-27 "hi there i will get you the address tomorrow. have a good weekend!"
8-29 Sunday, I saw an email she sent this day, not Saturday like she said she would above. "hi here is their address but this may be an old one it is from before we were married. hope you are well.
thought i would have heard from you on my birthday...
let me know where you are at with the paper work.
it was nice to meet up with you and not discuss anything awful!
and poor laura had a really big baby...also do you mean the XXXX for poker? interesting..take care"
another email a few hours later "i hate email this is my third f#$%ing try to get this info to you. this may be old it is from before we were married
hope you are well, i was surprised not to hear from you on my b-day.
poker-fun was it at XXXX? and poor laura big baby!
please let me know where you are at with the paperwork. it was nice to ge together and not discuss anything awful!
thanks
call me this week please
8-30 I got home and she left me a voicemail. Unusual for her to leave a message here, she knows its better to call my cell. "Hi, its me, I emailed you, um, I don't know, just look at my email, and call me back, I haven't heard from you in awhile and I was worried, I will talk to you soon hopefully, thanks bye."
Her tone was real apprehensive and she sounded worried. The last part she sounded real tentative and she sounded sincerely worried and hopeful to talk to me.
I just agreed to see her last week. She didn't even clarify what about, I thought we had things to talk about as always. We spent over an hour at coffee chit chatting about bs. I came away ticked off, but I didn't say anything. She knows I have the papers and only been a week, she's been sitting on them for months now.
For 10 months I had to call her a week in advance just to communicate with her. I couldn't see the dog, nothing. Throughout this time she tried to avoid seeing me or communicating with me at all, and the longer the better. Now just one week later she is "worried"? WTF for? Why is it so important I call her on her birthday? Didn't she get the card? Pretty sure she did since I haven't seen it returned.
I'm tempted to confront her and set boundaries about friendship, tell her what is acceptable to me, tell her what I think but I'm not sure this is the right route.
After all, I've done this in the past with no real results. The other alternative I can think of is to just tell her how busy I was, how much fun I've been having, bring her up to speed on the status of the papers and I sent her a card on her birthday. I'm thinking of writing an email so I don't have to talk to her. I feel bad she has asked me to call her a couple times, but I don't want to talk to her.
Any thoughts, suggestions, pointing out things I've missed, etc. would be much appreciated. Hope you all are well, I'll try to catch up with you all.
