Not sure what to do

[AndrewP]

My own thinking on this is that when your WW is engaged in an A and you want it to end you can either wait it out (which is what I did) or try to shake her out of it.

If you just want to be done with WW and her drama then filing might shake her out of it or it might give her exactly the freedom she believes she's been wanting and paint you as the "bad guy" for dumping her - at least in her eyes. It depends on how deep she is in the fog I presume.

In my case there was nothing I was willing to try to shake my WW out of her A and from what I've read here there is very little that "you" can do that will have any effect. sandi2 has some excellent posts on the mind of a WW that you should read if you haven't already. One key take-away point is that many WW have to have some sort of "loss" to start them to wake up. Some have contracted STDs, some have been talked down by trusted relatives reminding them of what they are walking away from, in my case as far as I can tell it was OM dumping my W when she pushed him for commitment.

Even when they leave the A many of them then have a long walk back out of the fog although there are regular stories here of tearful repentant WW trying to immediately jump right back in to the MR.

Reading back on your first few posts - you might want to ask yourself a couple of hard questions. Are you still married to her? Is she still married to you? From what I read she may feel that she's not and wants you to be "free" as well but is willing to date you along with others.