Chapter 3. Let the detachment begin

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SH:

Thanks for the check in. It's been a weird week. I'm home alone - first time ever. Very odd.

We went to MC for session # 2. I tried to be very cool and objective. I made sure not to mention reconciling at all. In the last session - despite W considering it a few days earlier, she closed the door on the idea very quickly.

The session was very distant and almost clinical - but I think that may have been better than evoking all kinds of emotions. Considering W "quit" MC once before, I should be very thankful that we are meeting. She did not like it in our 1st round of MC when the Dr. told her that much of this is her fault.

The hard part is we have different agenda's. W see's this as working on a way of "closing the book" and I see this as a way of building communication and reconciliation.

We focused on the fact that she feels scared of me. The Dr. laid it out that nothing can happen positively if one of us is scared of the other. We focused on the understanding of her feelings. He says we have to do that first, before we can fix anything.

She was willing to go back - not willing to commit to an ongoing appt. I will say this is an answer to prayer as I've been asking God for opportunities to share and connect.

Again, the Dr. was quick to "identify" her contribution to the problems too. Let's hope something sinks in -for both of us.

If I understand the WW/WAW syndrome she won't feel remorseful about her selfishness because some Dr. points out her bad behaviour.

It makes me feel better hearing it and I think it lets me move on a little.

Thanks to everyone on the competition thing. When I read my post again, it certainly seems more extreme than it actually was.

I do take the competing thing very seriously - I do wrestle with it a little. I'll do a separate post on it later.