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RDS,

I'm sorry she threw the softball. I know how that can happen.

A few weeks ago, my wife was at an event that I was at as well (we didn't go together). She said, "Can I ask you a question?" I said, "No!" Then she said, "You mean I can't ask you a simple question? You don't even know what I'm going to ask you." I was walking away at that point and I turned to the side to look at her and said, "Every time that you ask me if you can ask a question it turns out badly. If you can't ask me a question without first asking me if you can ask a question, then don't ask me a question! (I hope you can follow that.) I continued walking away.

That's going to be my policy from now on; if she asks me if she can ask a question, then I'm going to tell her "no." I hate getting drawn into an argument.

Doodler, you are 100 percent correct on everything you wrote. Even though we didn't get in an argument it still wasn't the route I wanted to take. When you have to ask for permission to ask a question then you know what follows isn't going to be good. It's almost as bad as when someone says, "Now don't be mad, but..." How the hell can I promise I won't be mad when I don't know what you're about to say?

I will try to take your advice to heart next time.