KML you really had me chuckle! I might actually do that.
Speaking with my IC yesterday made me realised that there is no trust from my side towards H, that even if in an ideal world H and I get back together there is no guarantee that H won't stay again! He went back to OW when he got given a second chance!
Despite still having feelings for him, I don't think I can get over what he did and I have always told myself that an affair would be a deal breaker for me. So I guess I was chickening out from making the right decision for me! I don't really see a future with him and us as a family. I' m starting to appreciate my time with my kids.