I'm heading off for a long weekend after work today, so I just wanted to? Express that I hope all is well in your part of the world.I hope your present arrived!
Would your brother like to share his birthday with you? Why don't you broach the possibility with him to celebrate it together next year? If for whatever reason it is not possible for him to change his tradition of spending that weekend with the in laws, ye could do it together the weekend before/after.
There is always a solution if people want to. I am nit trying to solve your problems, just curious about it.
Best wishes.
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together