I am not up to date on all of your story, but what I have observed here is that those who have resisted the temptation to stop being dark, fare out better.
There are many reasons for that. I won't outline them now, but I would add that phones work in both directions. Let her call you. There could be many reasons behind her telling others she would like you to phone her. I think you will use up way too much energy trying to figure out her thinking and still not know. Mind reading is truly a waste of time, but we inevitably do it to figure out where they are at.
Actions speak louder than words. Her phoning would be an action.
RDS and LIM gave good advice.
Best wishes
R 25 years M 14 years S11 & S13 Working on it alone since Oct 2014 M in trouble a lot earlier (~2 years) Feb 2016. 1st R chat in a yr. Next R chat Aug'17 Still together