Imagine you told a horrible secret to your spouse. And the night before you fight over custody of your 14 year old son, your spouse threatens to reveal your dark secret if you don't drop your claim for custody.
Yes, W texted me at 1 am last night with that threat.
I did not back down, and did not respond to W, and went full speed forward trying to get custody of s14.
I tore om to shreds "he's unstable", he attempted suicide last August, and s14 and om hate each other to the point where s14 pulled a knife on him. Also bad grades. With s14's recent arrest for shoplifting a few weeks ago, this was pretty strong evidence to take a teenager away from his mom, though she's been the primary caretaker for him all of his life.
W did not reveal the dark secret. We were both pretty nice to each other (I called her a good mother, she said I would help s14 get his homework done.)
The mediators said it would be a "coin flip" if the custody issue went to court.
So guess what?! I am divorced now! (sort of). We agreed that s14 would go to the high school by my apartment. We will do alternate weeks with s14. We ironed out all of the other issues. And read our agreement in front of a judge.
Ok its not really final until the court order is entered. This may take 3 weeks, but everything now is agreed to.
W was bawling at then end b/c she will have less time with s14. I was beaming with a smile that was ear to ear. I have stood as long as I could. Tomorrow looks like a brighter day.
