Quote: It just seems I go more grey, recharge and get on with my life only to have to talk to her at some point and it feels like starting over again in terms of having to detach. I'm not used to the two steps forward one step back dance.
I know what you mean! Actually, thinking about detachment as not trying to solve the WAS problems or getting enmeshed in them versus trying to shut them out helps me a good deal. Strong and healthy relationships include a measure of detachment. Think partner, not provider or caretaker.
Quote: I'm going back to boot camp tonight and hope to have figured some of this stuff out. By looking at my bookshelf one would think I've got some major problems.
LOL! One might think that of any of us! Or, that we've decided to take an active approach to living a fulfilling life and dealing with the obstacles on that path. I'd hate to think what my bookshelf might look like to someone who's never met me! Scary thought.
