Sounds like you need another hug. ((((((((((Seattle))))))))))
I'm no DB counselor as we well know, but sounds like you have a keen sense of where she is at-- maybe a better sense than she does?
If you want to go dark for yourself--if you think there is value in it for you or for where you are in your DB efforts, then do it. But don't do it hoping to get a reaction from her. That's my advice.
I'd also suggest not bragging about your exciting life, just talking about it like you would anything else--like you did.
It sounds to this girl like perhaps she misses you and that her life isn't so great these days. But don't you go creating expectations about what she'll do with that because you have no idea. It sounds like you handled the conversation very well.
Are you at the place where you need to figure out what you want before you know what to do? The old DB back to basics.
