I'm truly sorry for the pain you are experiencing. I hope you will post often and stick with us. The more you post, the more responses you'll get. And, ask questions.
Is your W still in contact with the same OM?
Have you read those links Cadet sent you? They are loaded with the type of advice you need to be using now.
Has there ever been any type of affair in the past?
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I keep working on myself, and tell her that I won't wait forever and try to push a timeline for her to commit to working on our marriage. Work means we develop a plan and start acting on it.
Giving her a timeline doesn't work. If you told her she had till midnight tonight, she'd call after midnight and tell you she was confused about what she wants and that she needs more time.
Your W is wayward, and with waywardness comes a mindset that is so opposite of the girl you married, that none of it makes sense to you.
What has been the type of approach you've taken toward her leaving you, and her affair?
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
