Well, gotta tell ya that I think it may be a good thing to pack her stuff and start putting it away. I am slowly working into that realm myself and it is a bit relieving.
I think now that it has been so long and where you are w/your sit, you'll realize that the pain to do this is not as lingering as it has been to saving your M. It's about YOU now. Not about THEM. I know it's been about you all along but now we're taking some of those "steps" to get back on firm ground so we can do some ass-chewing ourselves!
Take care and be well w/your choices. You have put every effort into saving your M, now it's her choice. Remember that God has great things in store for us and we have nothing to be sorry about. They laid the foundation for this roller-coaster and now it's time for us to get off, for GOOD!!! Tootles.........................
