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Originally Posted By: qt4x11
betterm, your W is all over the place! Dealing with her mood swings must be such a challenge. That said, you are handling her perfectly. And great job with the 'party behind enemy lines' - I don't even know how I'd handle a similar situation.
Yes, My W is bouncing all over the place. I haven't really let her words bother me much lately, but something about the threat to call the cops on my and falsely accuse of physical abuse, stuck with me for a bit. I wasn't really worried she'd do it, but on the other hand, the woman I'm dealing with right now, is not the W I knew so well and married years ago. So who knows... if it happens, nothing I can do to stop it.
The "behind enemy lines" party was ummmm. I won't lie, it started at 2 PM, and I spent all of 1PM - 2PM pacing back and forth in my living room and kitchen, thinking about how badly I did not want to go. I finally decided "EFF it, I'm not going", right around 2PM... I sat down, got my laptop out, and maybe 30 seconds later, thought. H3ll no, I'm going, and I'm going to have fun! (and I did).
I think this actually threw my W for a loop, because I'm sure she'd expected that I wouldn't go (this would've been my approach in the past - not feeling it? just don't go). But I went, and when she started asking me about it, I told her about how nice it was to see all them again. And how I talked "these people" about my life now, and our situation, and how things are changing so quickly, etc etc. I could tell it bothered her with the positivity ringing through my story. The weird thing is, I wasn't even doing it as a "technique", i was just really enthused with the way it went.
I don't think her day went so well, I asked about the girl's baby shower, told her I wished ours was somewhere with a pool like theirs was, etc etc. Turns out, she hated their party. didn't have fun, didn't enjoy talking to her friends, was constantly reminded of "us" and our "d"... I kinda felt bad for her, but then again, this is what she wanted.
