Wife files D after I confronted her 2nd EA-5

[Georgia Bulldogs]

Good to see you around friend. Sorry for your continued struggles.

Originally we booked a baseball tournament for S11 at the end of this month. In June, before paying the hotel fees, I confirmed with her and she said it would be fine to stay together for the tournament. Now she refuses to, and wanted to split 3 days for me and 3 days for her. I refused to do that. So now the compromise is that she get her own room and we'll have to pay 1/2 of the total and S11 stays with us 1/2 the time for the trip. OMG I can't believe how terrible my WW has become.

Confirm nothing like this with her again (unless your recovering). Her being there or wherever for your son is her problem and her life to deal with and manage. She's chosen that life for herself so stop making it easier for her to pretend and brutalizing yourself in the meantime. Everytime you get in another one of these situations you drain further any remaining hope of reconciliation. For now, your wife has given up on it so you are the only one that's preserving hope right now, so preserve it and allow the natural consequences of her choices befall her.

In return, I started to give her the same treatment. She then texted me why I didn't tell her about a certain game. I ignored that as well. I've been able to let things roll off my back for the past months, until I had to confront her.

MUCH BETTER. However, I'd rather see this as you erecting and maintaining appropriate boundaries versus a reaction to her. When you say here "IN RETURN" it's HER focused. Women can read through that crap a mile away and she'll sense you are punishing her and trying to manipulate her versus simply stating, "you have chosen divorce, I love you and want to reconcile but as long as you maintain this relationship with OM and continue down this path of divorce it is too hurtful and devastating to me to continue in any kind of relationship with you. I realize we need to communicate about our son but unless there is some kind of emergency, that can all transpire through email. I miss you but until then, good luck with your life"

Then you stop. You parallel parent (google it) until such time as she comes to you seeking forgiveness and reconciliation OR you feel emotionally healthy enough to reengage in this emotionally abusive relationship.