Well, I was actually talking about more of a mood. The A/OM becomes her addiction. Many times, the H will see his WW acting as if she is in a happy mood.......having a good day, etc. He thinks to himself that maybe this is a sign that things are getting better in the MR.......b/c she's in a better mood. In reality, she has had a fix for her addiction (some type of contact with the OM) and it is that fix that has her in a chipper mood. If she has had no contact with her affair partner in a little while, then her craving starts kicking and she may seem very down.
Man - I wish I knew this months ago when I would treat every bit of sunshine as a imminent reconciliation. Now I look at them as a precursor to disaster.
Originally Posted By: sandi2
The children are her leverage and she knows she gets away with more, if it's in their presence. She treats you this way b/c she gets away with it.
My WW would wait for a time and place where I was vulnerable and/or unable to react strongly and whack me with bad news. Oh the stories ....
On BD H52, W50 T27, M26 S21, D23 BD-9-Mar-16 D-15-Jan-18 Final-19-Apr-18 I am a storyteller. The story may do you no good. But a story is never for the listener. It is always for the one who tells
