Being there to help v going dark:balance

[Surfer]

Wow. I really want to talk to her about this and stop the train but I guess that will just cause problems? To say "I have read and worked so much on what you are and have been going through [a 2 year Marriage Course, which definitely helped me to deal with her anger if nothing else, now D'Bing lots of books etc] and I know I have made you feel unheard for such a long time. I just want to tell you that whilst I know you have reached a point of no return, I really did want to hear you and I am so sorry I made you feel unheard". However, if I do this I will just get both barrels I am sure. Also - she is so different (angry as you say) right now perhaps best I leave this, GAL, stay dark etc??