Maybe shutting her out is what you need to survive and move past all this? Far be it from me to whack you for wanting to get there.
Would moving her stuff somewhere else help you reestablish your own space? I know it did for me. And I did it early on. I took down family pictures, wedding pictures, and I packed up all his belongings around the house and boxed them up and put them far from view in the basement. It DID help me reclaim my daily life.
I'm glad to hear you're out socializing and making new friends and such. You're such a sociable man with a wonderful sense of humor and keen intelligence. You're quite the man, Mr. Hopeful.
Take care!
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
Betsey 
