Hi SR, I understand with the social media. For me it became a choice - do I want to live my life that way? Checking online for what some guy (who doesn't want to be with me right now) is doing? Heck no - my life is worth way more than that to me and my time is valuable.

So, I think the key is to have far more better things to do than that. GAL for you - activities for you and little one - nourishing things for you at home....

It is freeing when you can let go of some of the social media stuff and make healthy choices for you. Looking at the social media makes no positive difference to your sitch - but probably makes you feel worse. Instead, why not do something to make you feel better? Have a nice bath, read a self-help book, meditate, some yoga poses, watch an inspirational TED talk, practice gratitude, email and old friend, tell someone how much you appreciate them.

In time, when we can do this, we accept that there is still a good life to live - whether or not our spouse chooses to try and re-join it. And we are stronger and more centred for having got ourselves to a good place from where we started.

It does take time and baby steps - but you can do this! Xx

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We receive & we lose, and must try to achieve gratitude & embrace with whole hearts whatever of life that remains after the losses - Dubus