Quote: I’m a little embarrassed I’m considered the sensitive guy now. I’ve really been trying to speak her language and she is sensitive, so if I’ve gotten there I guess it is a good thing. Being sensitive isn’t easy though, I keep laying my heart out there hoping she will pick it up and take care of it.
Seattle, being the sensitive guy is a good thing! And it sounds as though you clearly understand the balance between being sensitive to someone else's needs and also being sensitive to your own.
Being the sensitive guy isn't easy, but what's the alternative? Being insensitive? Well, that doesn't work with most women I know, LOL.
Quote: If he were to share with me a little of his pain while maintaining control over it AND fight for me and our M, it would be a definite turn on. I never signed on the dotted line to take care of my man, Seattle. I signed on to support him, but not to be his everything. I'd like him to take care of himself, show a little vulnerability and tell me how much I mean to him.
I agree with this. I don't want to be anyone's everything because it's a setup. I've been there, done that. It causes problems.
Sharing the pain while maintaining control over it is the key, in this woman's opinion. What's attractive is the sensitive man who is authentic and real, who takes care of himself, respects himself enough to set his boundaries and think about what he stands for. Confident enough not to just fight for me and the M (his own promise), but for himself-- and to know why he is doing that. Make sense?
As for the ladies running away when they want to be chased, well, I have never understood why people do that, and I wonder whether that is less a gender issue than it is an issue of self-confidence versus insecurity, whether it's a more complex issue. As you know, that is what my H did at first.
Many women know that you never get what you really want by faking it. You have to ask for what you want.
take care and keep monitoring. you sound great. wonder
