Always asking the tough questions my friend, I guess thats why I like you. You challenge me to think and take a step back.
I see your point about the dignity and respect for her and for myself. I truly believe she also wants what you have stated.
I believe MS feels that I have made some great changes, I'm being vulnerable and emotional and these are good things for me. I believe she feels the basic, why now confusion and fears of going back. I believe she knows she has been acting unfair as of late, she has even made indirect comments about it.
Along with this I believe she feels suspicious because I'm bending over backwards. I'm doing things at the cost of my own self, and this does not respect myself, so how can she respect me? No wonder she is suspicious, and it may also appear weak if overdone.
I would change how MS views me as desirable. What is missing then? I've got all the basics completed, but now being someone strong and respectful to her and who she can lean on and gain support as well. Someone who will support her in her beliefs as much as my own. Someone she can cherish and allow herself to cherish. Someone she can be proud of to call her Husband.
What are my actions then you ask? Well I've already done them, now it is just time to monitor and prepare for the multiude of possible scenarios. Another sunny day in paradise here.
