Lost at the moment (2)

[lfm]

Thanks Coconut and Zephyr. I know I was reacting to my frustration, and let me emotions get the better of me. I feel like I have set things back to the beginning where any progress had been made has been lost.

As far as boundries, I've communicated 2 so far, but am struggling a bit with consequences for breaking those boundries.

The two I've communicated are:
1) If she's going to be on the phone with him, she needs to leave the apartment or house so that it's not around myself or the kids.
2) When we get into the house, she needs to figure out where she is going to sleep as she can no longer sleep in our bed in the MBR as long as this is going forward. I can't enforce this in the apartment we are in as there is no place for her to sleep outside of the MBR.

Zephyr - in response to your questions, I have not seen an IC or spoken with a DB coach. I'm planning on starting things with a DB coach after we move into the new house. I need to look into IC, I've got good benefits for that through work, but have not explored that yet.

In terms of a lawyer - I have not spoken to one yet, but am taking off work the full week of the move, and am planning to speak with at least one that week, just to get a better understanding of what exacltly I'm looking at in terms of process, what is needed and what my options are. There are 2 options that I'm aware of in Nebraska - legal separation and divorce.

I appreciate the support guys!