Ah, you hit on something with me today. Not that it helps you but maybe a little peek into the feminine mystique?
Quote: A lady friend of mine told me even if she is pissed to no end at her H and really doesn’t want him back, she would still feel loved and cherished if he came after her and might even take him back. I know it doesn’t make sense, but I’m just trusting what she said. Anyone agree?
Well, the book I just read (Wild at Heart--a book about secrets to a man's soul) mentioned this very thing. And I found it sort of interesting to see in black and white what I had not internalized as truthful: women DO want a strong man who fights for them.
There is a dignified way to fight, though. There is no way that I would appreciate or endorse Mr. Wonderful laying himself at the wheels of my truck to express his love for me--knowing that there was a good chance I'd hit reverse and run over his pathetic limp body in the process.
Acting in a manner that is not in his best interest while fighting for me would NOT be attractive to me.
However, if he were to share with me a little of his pain while maintaining control over it AND fight for me and our M, it would be a definite turn on. I never signed on the dotted line to take care of my man, Seattle. I signed on to support him, but not to be his everything.
I'd like him to take care of himself, show a little vulnerability and tell me how much I mean to him.
Do you see the difference in the approaches?
How do you think your W feels about how you are fighting for her? If you could change the way she sees things, what would you change, and how would you invoke it?
I'm awfully curious, because it sort of follows up on the conversations we had on the bar patio, while basking in the sun.
Hugs, special one.
Betsey
"There are only 2 ways to live your life. One is as though nothing is a miracle. The other is as though everything is a miracle."
