So what's my point? Okay I drop the rope (it feels dropped right now), then what? Just wait stay dark, minimal contact and GAL? If that's it - I am loving it, and I don't know if I want my WW back. If I do she will have changed (unlikely) will be doing the chasing and will have to compete in the market (not that I am anywhere near having a relationship at all). She will also have stopped putting her girlfriends before her H and M (& children) and will treat me with decency and respect (as I will her). I just don't think she will do this.
Surfer,
I know exactly where you're coming from. Within a few days of my wife moving out, the whole world felt like a happier place. I hate that I have to split my time with the boys (I wish I had them 100% of the time), but being out from under the tyranny of the WW was wonderful. I could actually get stuff done.
I loved and adored that woman, but I don't think she'd ever do the things that she'd have to do to come back to the marriage. I don't think she'd be able to live with the new doodler. If she moved back into the house, I don't think she'd last 15 minutes before I'd be ushering her out again. I wish that weren't the case, but I'm not ever going to be a doormat again.
