Hi Hope, I understand the feeling of how much you want to fight for it. I was the same. And I think, deep down, I still want to. But with so many things my h said I prefer not to. Sometimes I believe I would be better off w/o him, but sometimes I want my husband back. But I want my husband, i.e. not the person he's become during crisis. So, no matter how much we fight, we are not going to get what we want for now. As Job said, they detach from us for a long time. So if we are lucky, we can get them back but we need to give it time.
My h & I, we tried to make it work 2 years ago but here we are now, separated. Job explained to me that if the crisis are interrupted when not finished then the second time it's much worse. I can confirm! I wish I knew then, I would not insist on working on the marriage. Give it some time! I know it's hard but... Be strong!
