Sandhi, what do you think at this stage if i be more assertive, flirty, alpha male, pursue? past few weeks i've been trying to give her some space.
Would you know when to be assertive? Can you picture yourself being assertive? Do you know what you would do with her resistance or strong opposition?
Flirty? Certainly nothing sexual. Not knowing your style of flirting or exactly how you mean this, it's hard to say go for it. The time doesn't seem right to me, since she wants to leave you. Maybe you can explain more to me.
Pursue.........certainly not! Why would you?
Alpha male? Sure! If you can handle it. If you really understand how. Have you googled these subjects?
My suggestion is to focus on the things I previously listed. What makes me nervous is why you would insert the flirting and pursuing. Most W's like flirting, but not when she's deciding to stay or leave him. Timing is everything!
Hi Sandi. Kindof agreed. When i wrote this i was wondering how i should plan my way forward. After munching on it for 24hours im going to start from scratch except this time without the nice guy routine.
Not saying i wont be nice, just not going to go out my way to please or prove to her anything.
Im naturally and alpha male,if anything i take great pain to step it down a notch. Luckily as a kickboxing competitor and instructor i do get to flex that muscle often.
As for being flirty, its something i was good at over a decade ago (pre-M) though like you said timing may not be right now.
Me31 W31 M11yrs S6yrs 23Mar16-BD 9Apr16-W admitted EA w boss. 27Jun16-W Changed job and promised NC w OM. 14Jul16-Continued contact w OM.Start of Separation. 24May17-Divorced.
