Lost at the moment (2)

[lfm]

Well, stepped in it a couple of nights ago. Got sucked into a relationship discussion, where my wife indicated there is no future for us and that she feels zero connection to me anymore. This was said with much more anger and venom than I have heard previously.

I did not do a good job of handlilng this and indicated after we move into the new house in a couple of weeks that I would start working on finding an attorney to start divorce proceedings and that we need to start having discussions with the kids to let them know that we are going through some struggles and trying to figure things out.

At this point I'm not sure exactly what to do as I don't want to get a divorce but know that I've put that out there and indicated a time frame, I feel like I need to follow through on it. I guess I said it just to see how my WW would respond. I'm sure others out there have been in this same circumstance, so any advice would be appreciated.

I did say to my WW this morning that we need to start working on defining responsibilities and and schedules for when we get into the new house. She looked really sad when I said this and didn't say anything in response. I know feelings change, but feel like I've kind of painted myself into a corner with the statement about finding an attorney and starting the divorce process. I feel like if I back off from that and don't follow through that I'm continuing to be a doormat and letting her do as she pleases with no consequences, and if I follow through I'm being strong, but pursuing a course of action I don't really want.