Quote: Just focusing all my energy on her and how I can accommodate her wants and needs. This has been SO DIFFICULT since she does not communicate with me. I have decided this is impossible. I can’t be proactive because I can’t guess what she is thinking, I can only be reactive to when she reaches out.
I understand what you are saying. I know what you mean. Even when we do have contact, it is often impossible to get a clear read on the WAS. We can't read their minds.
Quote: Right now, it will be in my comfort zone. For the time being, that is all I can do.
Again, I understand. I've been feeling a bit the same way myself lately, and I think it may have been a little hypocritical of me not to admit it.
Quote: men only appear to be tough with pride, we are actually very frail and have soft hearts. We are propped up with superiority complexes covering inferiority complexes.
It is unfortunate, but it is true, and I will admit to it myself. We are so often afraid to come out and show that we have feelings, feelings that might be classified by our male peers as overly-sensitive.
Quote: Another thing that came up with the DR crowd is that I really think it is tough for us men that are committed to DR. Not that it isn’t tough for women too, but our needs are so much more primal and easier to understand?
I think I'm with you here Seattle. I think us guys may have it a little harder. Please don't hurt me ladies, and I won't rule trying it, but my prancing around the house in some tight black undies isn't likely to affect my W the same way as if the roles were reversed.
Quote: I need to now monitor to see if she draws closer. If she does, I need to show unconditional love but also provide a bit of mystery that she may really lose me forever if she continues to treat me badly. If she doesn’t, I need to be more confident and live my life for me until she does initiate contact. Be happy being me and growing for me. There is a fine line between them both.
It's a very fine line indeed, one that always seems to be shifting, but I think we're seeing it better and better as we go along.
