Newby here, desperate for some advice

[JRuss]

Sandi -- I don't disagree with any of what you said. I don't seem to have any chance at all of keeping this family together or rebuilding a marriage if it really is just going to hinge on what's going on with her.

On the validation email point (I didn't send BTW), I have to admit it is hard reconciling all of the various rules in your "rules" post. I have this notion of validation pinging around in my head from reading your stickied email, her meltdown came and went with me not doing much other than listening and trying to brainstorm short term childcare solutions, and I wondered aloud here if I should Send a short note. Your multiple question marked "Seriously" line makes it seem like that was a really dumb idea, though, like it never should have occurred to me. Can you shed any light on this? I've read a lot of other posters in other threads trying to make sense of this. Thanks!