You can see where your h's priorities are...a new car. Maybe he's hoping you'll file.
I'm glad you had a great pampering day. We all need days like that and I'm really glad you are discovering your new found freedom to do what you want and when you want w/o feeling guilty. I say "go, girl"!
Sit quietly, the answers will reveal themselves when you least expect them to. The past is gone, the present is a gift and you need to focus on today, allow the future to reveal itself when it is ready.