My little slice of Life 2

[Tofbrks]

Well I dropped my own bomb on her yesterday. At first she tried to simply explain it away as a simple misunderstanding or the it was harmless. The txt's I have are a conversation between best friend of om and my W. They discuss how if I F with om this guy would kill me , myW responds om would or she would. Then friend says the body would be easily desposed of. W says is it bad she wouldn't care. Then they go on to talk about how happy om is with her and how happy she is with him. Now I know people say or txt stuff with " killing" people jokingly often... To me it's the underlying hate and the fact that this A has been going on for sometime. The other txt I have is sil and W. Sil is aware of relationship .. To what degree I don't know. Sil a tells W not to date so soon ... Not to go to lake where om is .... Eluding to the fact that the realitonship is crossing from ea to pa.

I also told W I have seen lawyer and that she has her agreement and is tweeking it. I also told her the nesting thing to leave kids in house would not work. I cannot have her in my house with my D's knowing she is with om. It to me would still be like I condone or accept her behaviors. She keeps spouting off about just do it for girls.. It's what's best for them...well if I can't deal with it or it causes conflict within me , I feel as though that would be felt by D's.

Several I'm sorry's and never meant to hurt you and she never would harm me or wish harm on me. The discussion continued late last night with me clarifying my position of proceeding with Divorce. The main point she was trying to convey .. " you know I haven't crossed they line" about bein in pa. She kept at this for several comments ... Saying you know I would never do that or you know I'm not in a full fledged affair...this is the same woman who was scared to death I was going to hire a pi. To me if this relationship is what she says it is a friendship then why defend it so strongly? The txt's don't lie and paint a more complicated picture.
On top of our struggles the fact that my D found these on her Mac was not a big concern for her . She said if we don't make it a big deal then she won't. Well she sees the same txt I did. She can see the lying and the threats.. But that's not important? W has been really hard on D lately about lying and some behavior that doesn't really match with what we'd want to see... Then she sees W doing the similar things... Talk about being confused.

Well that's all I've got and waiting for this new day of drama and what it brings...