You can't go R with every guy or girl you like or think likes you. Not possible and your life will be all the richer with all kinds of friends, ages, colours, backgrounds, social status.
Be wary of the wayward mentality and set clear boundaries for you and the problems won't arise.
My situation is very different to Jellyb, I have never dated. I got to know the men I am with first in a group setting. I have had 4 Rs, I M three and was engaged to the fourth.
In fact my shortest R is with WH.
These are my boundaries:
No one who is not free to be with me. If they are M, engaged, living with someone and or pining for their ex. No thank you.
Age appropriate and able to decide for themselves
No relatives, guys I work with, ex bfs of my friends,
Someone who lives as an adult, solvent, hobbies, friends and sees the funny side.
Some one healthy in mind and body.
Someone who has had at least one committed relationship, in contact with their children.
No compulsives.
Someone capable of love and personal growth.
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So where did I go wrong with WH?
I ignored the flags and did not have any boundaries.
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So is it possible to have male friends, yes of course it is and you will need personal boundaries for that too.
Such as if they have a partner you know both and behave appropriately.
Do not lead on anyone you are not interested in getting to know it's unfair to do this to boost your own self esteem. It's hurtful.
When you know that you will not be pursuing an R, let the other down appropriately.
Be moderate with alcohol and take the embryonic R to safe ground.
Be clear this is friendship territory.
Personally I don't do 'friends' with benefits.
Flirt outrageously but don't go too far.
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Now how can I accidentally run into Liam?
Hmmmmmmm
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Freedom is just another word for nothing left to loose. V 64, WAW
