Seattle your finger must be feeling better. Good to see your back at it. Sounds like we are in a simular boat. Why do they insist on moving on when they see our efforts? Mine even went as far as to ask where is the unconditional love. I was shocked to say the least. I am only sad for you Seattle, You have really poured your heart and soul into being the man for her and showing her your love through actions as well as words. Your good to the bone and you will always know in your heart you gave it your all no matter how this goes. Dont worry about going dark early on. How were you to know? The important thing is that you tryed your ass off to save your marriage for her. I never really went completly dark. I screwed up in the beginning by pursueing and being to dependant on her. I never found DR until I was 1 year into it. But in alot of ways I was already DBing, the book just gave me a sense of direction to put it all together. Your doing great, give it time and take care of you while just keeping on showing her unconditional love. Time I think is the number one remedy to there pain. The idea is to not damage your future with her in the mean time. By taking care of you your not dwelling on the uncontrolable. Live with your self and be the happiest person you can be. You will have to do this anyway if it doesnt work out, who knows maybe she will see your love of yopurself and her and want to be with you in the long run. Time... God Bless, Eddy
