That dynamic you discuss.. Showering someone with attention and praise making it look like it is you and them against the world and then taking it away or insulting/demeaning/unfairly arguing is a tactic that cult leaders use to control. My first boyfriend did that. I'm glad you are recognizing your draw to men like that. I think they tell you sometching that you want to hear and it's easy to fall for it. Maybe it's about not needing to hear those words from someone else because you yourself know your value.
I think you are onto something here. I am more vulnerable to this when I'm alone. The day the kids leave is the worst. I am always tempted to reach out. I've tried making plans with female friends but it rarely gets past the "yes we have to plan that" stage. So that leaves me wanting to reach out to anyone just to feel connected. I've had better luck with cousins and other extended family. Family always shows up and I have a lot near by. That's kept me from reaching out to the game players. I also joined groups that gets me out of the house and around like-minded people. I'm looking into find a good book discussion GroupWise I think that would connect me with more women--and girlfriends are what I think I need right now. But I probably should also try and learn to be enough for me.
V you are right that walking away from game players is key.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17
