That dynamic you discuss.. Showering someone with attention and praise making it look like it is you and them against the world and then taking it away or insulting/demeaning/unfairly arguing is a tactic that cult leaders use to control. My first boyfriend did that. I'm glad you are recognizing your draw to men like that. I think they tell you sometching that you want to hear and it's easy to fall for it. Maybe it's about not needing to hear those words from someone else because you yourself know your value.
I am trying to recognize what my draw is.
I haven't started dating yet.. I think it's because I would want that commitment. I don't want to keep someone at distance or be someone they don't consider seriously. I don't like tempovary and its probably the reason I did not end a relationship with husband before we got married.
