First I’d like to THANK EVERYONE for uplifting words of encouragement. Although I haven’t posted much, they mean a lot to me, more than I can express.
I apologize for not posting and keeping up with you all. You all have been great inspirations to me and I care for all of you and hope your M’s are reunited and healed. I will try and catch up with you all soon, but please understand I’ve still got a pin sticking out of my finger for another two weeks at least.
The last week has been very difficult and trying for me. My regular work productivity has been further decreased due to the hand surgery, work piling up, client pressures increasing, I’m thinking of making a career switch (being recruited), my parents’ insurance claim issues due to fire, and of course my DR efforts. Easter was very emotional for me as was the entire week. Lots of things but we all are faced with challenges aren’t we?
As it relates to my DR efforts I believe I am switching things up, more on that later.
Karen & Wonder, thank you both for your concern. You ladies always have such great insights that I appreciate so much. Thanks for the hugs.
3J, I’ll see you this weekend so don’t get jealous from the hugfest! I thank you for your support and I think about you as well and also hope you catch a few breaks that don’t involve bones! I read your post and there are some positives.
Betsey, always nice to hear from you and I so value your insights and thoughts. I hope they pay us all $1M+ per post, we’d all be richer than Bill Gates, or I guess its Ikea guy now.
Eddy, glad to see you are back for round !@#$%^&*()_+, I’m really glad you are back friend.
I’m not so sure you should take any advice from me, it doesn’t seem to be working and it only destroys me when she is so blatently cold and still with OM everyday. I can understand your Ws feeling like she was a petrie dish but I think the WAS finds fault in everything and spins the story to read to support their position. I would guess it wouldn’t have mattered. I’m now thinking it was a necessary step to show her I love her, but I should have done it in the beginning when we were first S instead of going dark first. Is that what happened in your sitch or did you do a lot of pursuing initially?
I do very much agree the scars are very deep for her and I am not giving up. I have been keeping up with your thread and I can’t help but wonder if your withdrawing is drawing her back. Especially since you were really moving on with your life and it didn’t include her. You think this coupled with that she recognized you love her is waking her up?
Renew, thank you also for the hug. I don’t mind hugging a guy but as I told 3J, don’t fondle me there! Ha ha. I think the Matrix look is sleek and cool but I really like the Ted Nugent stripes of RWB, Wango Tango! If W had her way I would dress like Jon Bon Jovi. One of the rockers that is actually still M to his first and only.
I would also like to say if I could do this over, I would be doing it like you have been. I have said it before and I’ll say it again. You have got a great grip on this DR thing. I also think there is a point for tough love and calling it like it is if it does get that far.
I agree with your insights, she definitely cares about me, otherwise she wouldn’t have done any of those things. She immediately helped dress me, undress me, and dress me again and I didn’t even ask her to help. I will take this as + actions and not try to analyze motivations.
