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Congratulations on the condo purchase! This is a huge step for you. You've got your h wondering just what is going on w/you. First, a new car and now a condo purchase. It's going to make his head spin because this is a new you! I wouldn't worry too much about whether the condo purchased set back the progress your h has been making. This is a purchase that YOU wanted and truly it doesn't have a thing to do w/him. Right now, your h sees you are moving on and he's a bit upset by it because he had hoped that you would stay right where he left you pre-crisis. It doesn't work that way because we all grow, we change and we begin to live life again, i.e., just as you are now starting to do.

As for the lipstick present, I would let it go. You may never solve this puzzle and when you let it go, the answers will come when you least expect it.

About your trips. Of course, your h is going to text you w/all sorts of excuses. He doesn't want you to forget him and it's his way of reminding you that he's out there. Another thing, he's not happy that you are traveling, i.e., even if it's work related because he senses that you are enjoying yourself. I am going to suggest that you not respond back to his texts when you are on travel unless they are emergencies. He doesn't always respond to your texts, so it's time to start thinking of yourself just a wee bit more and putting him on "pause" while you are out having some fun. It will give him something to think about.

Again, I wouldn't worry about your recent purchase and how it impacts him. This is something that you have wanted to do for quite some time and I say BRAVO! It's time you started thinking about you and your future and what makes you happy for a change. Who knows...this just might shake him up a bit and give him something to seriously think about.

You are doing great!