[BrightFuture]

Irish, bttrfly, thanks for stopping by.

1- I wondered if you figured out that puzzle. I guess we need to add it to the unknown mysteries of the world. Crop circles , ancient ruins, the human brain and MLC

Irish, I’m afraid I will never figure out that puzzle. I tried… After my sister’s GF, who was also at my B-day party told that she understood my BIL’s comments about that lipstick box that it was from someone else… I asked my BIL point blank if the gift was from him or from H. To which he replied that it was from him. I had a happy hour with him today and apologized for my questioning and also told him about the lipstick gift that I got from H. So, BIL told me that he didn’t know about H’s gift… and that he barely talks to H… and that I know about H more than he does…

I’m completely confused now… Are these two gifts that seem to have a perfect sense to be correlated, are completely random..? My head is spinning… LOL. My intuition tells me that there is something I don’t know…

I’m trying to make this post not as long, as I have a lot of updates… I went on a business trip last week to a Southern state with a few people from work. We had a pretty tight work schedule, but also had some fun going out and visiting some local sites. In the middle of the trip, I was getting some texts from H, asking me for favors and giving me some info… Why does he need to do it when I’m busy with my life..? (just like when I was in Vegas, he was texting me about “stuff”…)

After I came back from that trip last Wednesday, I drove to the vacation home on the next day and stayed there for the holiday weekend. Met with my mutual friends… Heard some stories and opinions…

Here are the BIG news I didn’t want to post about while the whole thing was in process. I bought my own condo at the vacation home place! It came on the market with the ridiculously low price, so I could not just let it go! I did the refi on my house mortgage here with the cash out. It is done and I’m ready to sign the paper work for the condo. It comes fully furnished. It has also been in the rental pool and had been renting pretty good.

My intend it to keep it in the rental, and use it when I am not able to stay at the first (H’s condo). I run this idea by my mutual friends and my male friend already shared it with H, when he was there a week before I came. I said that I would share the rental profit for these days when I stay at “our” condo with H. I still feel more comfortable in “our” condo, plus I have a lot of my stuff that is still there. Eventually, I might want to make my new condo comfortable for me (not just for rental).

So, when I was at the vacation home last time, for the Memorial Day weekend, I saw my other friends and some people who are from H’s circle of friends. The news about my condo purchase were already circulating… I guess there was some discussion and gossip about that... I’ve got “congratulations” from that crazy woman, H’s friend. I’m sure there were some conversations about it when H was there for a few days, which I think didn’t make him feel good. After all, I bought this for 1/3 of a price that we paid for “our” condo.

Soooo… this seemed to throw H out of balance. If he was making his way out the rabbit hole, this event made him retreat right back into it. I’m not sure if by making this step to buy a condo, I reversed any progress that H was making.

What I know: H sent me a lipstick for my B-day, he offered me to stay at the condo a few time recently even before I asked, he’s been retaining the mutual accounts and credit card, like he wants to keep some kind of connection to me… According to my male friend, H was going out of the way to maintain the san rail, so my son and his friend could enjoy it (my son, his GF and their friend came to the vacation home last weekend too), H has been trying to facilitate the repair of the hope that was made in the hallway last time I was at the condo and discovered a water leak again – to have the condo ready for my sister’s and her son’s visit in a couple of weeks (with me, of course.)

At the same time, my male friend told me about the conversation with H a couple of weeks ago… H made a comment about me buying a condo, something like “she didn’t even want to be here first place, and now she bought a condo…” And then this one: “I want her clothes out of my closet.”… Sounds like an angry man to me, LOL.

My mutual friend was giving me the ideas how I can have a storage space at my new condo to store all the stuff that I would remove from “our” condo… I told him that he didn’t need to worry about it, because I’m not going to do it anytime soon… and that H needs to file for D before he can make these kind of requests… Plus, H needs to talk to me and not to our friends about this… The conversation got a bit heated… Until next day when I told my mutual friend about the lipstick gift. Boy! Didn’t it throw him out of balance, LOL! He went silent and his wife told me that he was processing that info, hahaha.

All he said that the lipstick is a very personal gift and he cannot wrap his head around it. Ha! Welcome to the club! LOL!

Some other “stuff” that I head over the weekend. My female friend said that she still cannot understand H, but it seems like he is regretting his decision to separate. I asked why she thinks that and she said that H’s been making some comments that make her believe that. She asked me if I could get a bigger cash out amount out of my refi, to pay for “our” condo, and I said that I could. I guess, this is related to H’s having problems with the condo mortgage, which makes him feel anxious and worried about his future. Oh well… he made his bed… he has to sleep in it…

My male friend said that I’ve been doing exceptionally well in my life, and that H is just stuck in one place and seems to be not getting the life that he wanted. He also said that I came a long way and that I’m changed so much… that everyone loves me… and H will never be able to find anybody like me… who could also tolerate his antics, like I used to… Not sure that I want to tolerate his antics anymore though…

Well… a long post again… And I’m sure I missed something, LOL.