Hijack away. I completely relate to what you are saying. And I think your friends are on the right track. When I first thought about dating I thought I'd go no more than 5 years older or younger. i broke that rule on both ends. It is the younger guys that seem to be reliable. There is no future with someone 10+ years younger but I'm not looking for that right now anyway. I spent some time wondering what a younger guy would see in me, but I've kind of let that go when I met someone who both of us misread each other's age. We were both equally bummed a bit when the truth of the age difference came out. But we put it aside and have enjoyed spending time together. Made me realize I have a lot to offer other people that has nothing to do with age. This transition time is about trying new things, and learning about me and others.
40s 2teens M14Y BD-10/12/13 rec-1/14 BD2-5/14 rec2-9/14 EA disc-10/14 4/15-BD 3 and triangulation ensues Served with D6/15 MS forced to leave7/15 D agreement signed 8/16 final 5/17