Today I'm moving the last of my things back home with W. It's been a rough 7 months. If anyone had told me at the beginning it would take this long or be this hard I wouldn't have known how to handle it. But I did. Everyone here helped a lot. My DB coach helped a lot. Divorce Remedy helped a lot and I have to say again, please everyone, reread it. MWD's message sometimes gets lost on this forum. She's the real deal and I recommend you look to her advice.
The move home is temporary and has to do with my living situation changing. I'm living there only partially, and will move into my own condo in a few weeks while we continue to work on us. Like mutation says, it's a process and we have to keep working on it.
Ultimately? I'm lucky. My W never got over me and picked someone completely inappropriate to have an A with. Lucky me!
Still being cautious, still making mistakes, and still trying to do better.
I haven't been around in a while. I'm very happy for you. Some advice. Treat life like an adventure. Avoid ruts like the plague. Force yourself, and W, outside your comfort zones. Don't be predictable. Let her spend the rest of your lives discovering new things about you.
Don't exercise the relationship the way too many people exercise at the gym. They do the same routine over and over... It becomes dull and boring and a lot of times they quit working out. Relationships are the same. Don't allow yours to ever become dull and boring. Mix things up. Challenge each other. Don't dream about things you'd like to do but haven't. List those things out and to them....together. Maybe skydiving, maybe salsa dancing, maybe hiking through mountains, riding bikes through the park, whatever. Mix it up and watch the relationship grow and prosper. Nothing in life can remain stagnant. Everything either grows or dies. Relationships live under that same rule. They grow or they die. Yours was lucky enough to be resurrected for another chance. Don't squander it. Good luck.
